Monday, November 5, 2012

A New Name

More change.  I'm married, and it seems as though the men get off pretty easy.  Did Chris help with the wedding?, of course.  But I think it is safe to say I did majority of the planning and organizing.  Now we're married, and what does he have to do, nothing.  And I still have work to do.  I've started the official process of going from Ms. Madrid to Mrs. Sweat.  It's not like it's rocket science or super hard, but it's still additional work.  Although I'm learning that a lot of the work is mental.  I wanted for so long to be married, take my husbands last name, and become a family.  And now that it's here, I feel like I'm playing a role, that it's all pretend.  I've been Ms. Madrid for 32 years.  I'm pretty sure it's gonna take me 32 years to get used to the idea of Mrs. Sweat.  Good thing we have all of that time (and then some)! 
While on our honeymoon I had a realization that I never have to date again.  The feeling came with mixed emotion.  If anything, I'm happy to continue to date Chris.  To get to know him as we grow and how he will change.  But again it's weird, thinking that I've spent so much more of my life dating, and now I'm married, so that part of my life is just...gone?!  Not that I want it back, because believe me I don't.  It's definitely exhilarating to think about!  I asked Chris what he thought about that, and his immediate response was that it's awesome, that dating sucks.  Which of course are some very valid points.  If anything I am elated to know I'm only dating one person for the rest of my life, and I feel so blessed and lucky to be in love with him!
I'm no longer "Me, Myself, and I".  When I was first thinking of a blog name when I started this blog back in 2008, I was really the only person who hung out with me.  So Me, Myself, and I was very appropriate.  Then it became so much more than that.  I was truly transforming me, myself, and I, the mental, physical, and emotional self.  Then I met Chris, and we became engaged.  Shortly after he proposed I thought of the name "Sweatin' It Out".  I told Chris of the name, and he thought it was meant for him.  He doesn't really want to be associated with the blog (and he doesn't really get it), but I advised him that I would be a Sweat too.  And I think it's appropriate, I did a lot of sweating to meet my future husband, and it's something that I plan to continue to do, and I'm still figuring life out.  So I think the new name is great.  It associates my life with my now married life.  
I've applied for a new Social Security card, I've already gotten my Colorado Drivers License, I've started updating my name on websites and my email address, and once I get my SS card I can do the official change at work (hopefully sometime this week). 
I truly feel life is always a work in progress and this is just part of the stepping stone.  I'm still me, but just a different name.      


Emily Foley said...

I had a surprisingly hard time changing my name. I still called myself Emily Larson for months afterward. I'm glad I didn't have a middle name so I could take my maiden name as my middle. Plus, changing your name is a pain!

I love dating my husband. There is no insecurity or wondering what he's thinking...and I always get lucky afterwards. Heh heh.

Summer said...

My name change didn't feel like such a huge deal... Smith is super boring compared to Skousen, though.

I definitely would rather have someone I'm totally comfortable around than hang around with different people who I'm kindof afraid of!

I still haven't changed my SS card. At first, it was because it would cause too many issues with scholarships and stuff, but now I just figure I'm not too worried about it yet. I'll get around to it sometime.

sarahlove said...

Emily's comment made me laugh! Lucky!! HAHAHAHA Too cute!

I have never changed my name. I am just unconventional like that. Although, I am pretty close to legally changing my name...but it will be the name of MY choice. All parties and family members are supportive of my decision! All in good time. ;)