I feel like both of my births were pretty classic textbook births. Helena was a planned c-section. Check into hospital go to room for surgery get baby. Bennett was induced on his due date. Start pitocin, contractions start, break water, get to 10 centimeters, push baby out. Truly that's about it. Of course there are a LOT more details, but that's the condensed version.
My main motivation for deciding on a VBAC was to have that instant skin on skin and to not have the struggles with breastfeeding that I did with my first. With a c-section your milk is delayed and I didn't want that. There were of course other reasons, but those were the two big main ones.
I feel like the big thing that isn't talked about at ALL is the recovery from a vaginal birth. I had the idea that it would be easy. There is a lot of talk about the hard recovery from a cs because it is a major abdominal surgery, but nobody talks about the hard recovery from a vaginal birth. You hear about women tearing; having a 2nd degree tear all the way to a 4th degree tear. But what does that mean post baby?! It's weird that with a cs all the talk is about healing and your scar healing, well with a vaginal birth you birthed your baby out of your vagina! Simply put, no the recovery is not any less. I was "lucky" I only had a 2nd degree tear inside (supposedly those heal easier than an external tear). I still bleed for 5 weeks and couldn't pee like normal until about 6 weeks. For about the first 3 weeks by the end of the day I was in tears going to the bathroom. I desperately wanted to just go to the bathroom like normal. After about a week I found laying on my side in the afternoons helped tremendously. The other big difference is not really having the ability to "hold it" now that I've had a baby vaginally. I loved having that immediate skin to skin connect with Bennett. And being present with him the whole time and having my arms to myself. I was able to hold him and talk to him right away. I hated being separated from Helena while I got stitched back up. I definitely liked that my recovery from my VBAC was quicker than my CS, but I gotta be honest, I liked the predictability aspect of a scheduled CS. I think if I were to have a third baby (no more baby plans, FYI) I would go for another VBAC. For me there was something super powerful about delivering Bennett. Now that it is over talking about Bennett's birth is something I love to talk about and share. And I love to hear other versions as well. During one of our post-partum meetings I asked my doula to share her version of Bennett's birth story. And I probably ask Chris to share his version every few weeks or so.